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Why You’re Misinterpreting Job Rejections (And How to Change Your Mindset)

Why You’re Misinterpreting Job Rejections (And How to Change Your Mindset)
Rejection hurts, especially when it comes from a potential employer. But viewing a job rejection as a personal failure is the wrong mindset. Here are the top three misconceptions candidates have after being turned down, and why they’re often completely off the mark.
1. Mind Reading: You’re Overanalyzing the Interview
It’s common to replay the interview in your head, scrutinizing your answers and wondering if you said something wrong. You might convince yourself that the interviewer didn’t appreciate your skills or that you were the perfect fit and they made a mistake. But having been on the other side of the hiring table, I can tell you that a rejection isn’t always about your skills or how well you interviewed. Often, it’s about a deeper concern that you wouldn’t be genuinely happy in the role. It’s unfair, but interviewers do think this way—sometimes they pass on great candidates because they sense the position might not be fulfilling for them. Want to dissect your interview with a pro? Book me.
2. Catastrophizing: You’re Imagining the Worst
After multiple rejections, it’s easy to spiral into worst-case scenarios. You might start believing you’ll never find a job or that you’re doomed to fail. But a rejection email is just part of the process, not a reflection of your value. It’s tempting to ask for feedback, but remember that companies often can’t provide it for legal reasons, and when they do, it might be more discouraging than helpful. Instead, focus on moving forward with confidence and not letting these rejections define your self-worth.
3. Attributing: You’re Assuming the Reason Without Knowing It
It’s natural to try and attribute a rejection to something specific, like your background or experience, but you simply don’t know the full story. You might think, “They don’t want me because of my small business experience” or “They think I’m too corporate for their startup.” The reality is, most rejections have factors beyond your control. Rather than attributing it to assumptions, recognize that it’s just not the right fit.
Remember, rejection isn’t a judgment on your abilities. The real mistake would be landing in a role where you’re unhappy and starting the job search all over again. Embrace the process, learn from it, and keep moving forward with resilience.
